Saturday, 26 July 2014
Highly confident people believe in their ability to achieve. If you don’t believe in yourself, why should anyone else put their faith in you? To walk with swagger and improve your self-confidence, watch out for these fifteen things highly confident people don’t do.
1. They don’t make excuses.
Highly confident people take ownership of their thoughts and actions. They don’t blame the traffic for being tardy at work; they were late. They don’t excuse their short-comings with excuses like “I don’t have the time” or “I’m just not good enough”; they make the time and they keep on improving until they are good enough.
2. They don’t avoid doing the scary thing.
Highly confident people don’t let fear dominate their lives. They know that the things they are afraid of doing are often the very same things that they need to do in order to evolve into the person they are meant to be.
3. They don’t live in a bubble of comfort.
Highly confident people avoid the comfort zone, because they know this is a place where dreams die. They actively pursue a feeling of discomfort, because they know stretching themselves is mandatory for their success.
4. They don’t put things off until next week.
Highly confident people know that a good plan executed today is better than a great plan executed someday. They don’t wait for the “right time” or the “right circumstances”, because they know these reactions are based on a fear of change. They take action here, now, today – because that’s where progress happens.
5. They don’t obsess over the opinions of others.
Highly confident people don’t get caught up in negative feedback. While they do care about the well-being of others and aim to make a positive impact in the world, they don’t get caught up in negative opinions that they can’t do anything about. They know that their true friends will accept them as they are, and they don’t concern themselves with the rest.
6. They don’t judge people.
Highly confident people have no tolerance for unnecessary, self-inflicted drama. They don’t feel the need to insult friends behind their backs, participate in gossip about fellow co-workers or lash out at folks with different opinions. They are so comfortable in who they are that they feel no need to look down on other people.
7. They don’t let lack of resources stop them.
Highly confident people can make use of whatever resources they have, no matter how big or small. They know that all things are possible with creativity and a refusal to quit. They don’t agonize over setbacks, but rather focus on finding a solution.
8. They don’t make comparisons.
Highly confident people know that they are not competing with any other person. They compete with no other individual except the person they were yesterday. They know that every person is living a story so unique that drawing comparisons would be an absurd and simplistic exercise in futility.
9. They don’t find joy in people-pleasing.
Highly confident people have no interest in pleasing every person they meet. They are aware that not all people get along, and that’s just how life works. They focus on the quality of their relationships, instead of the quantity of them.
10. They don’t need constant reassurance.
Highly confident people aren’t in need of hand-holding. They know that life isn’t fair and things won’t always go their way. While they can’t control every event in their life, they focus on their power to react in a positive way that moves them forward.
11. They don’t avoid life’s inconvenient truths.
Highly confident people confront life’s issues at the root before the disease can spread any farther. They know that problems left unaddressed have a way of multiplying as the days, weeks and months go by. They would rather have an uncomfortable conversation with their partner today than sweep an inconvenient truth under the rug, putting trust at risk.
12. They don’t quit because of minor set-backs.
Highly confident people get back up every time they fall down. They know that failure is an unavoidable part of the growth process. They are like a detective, searching for clues that reveal why this approach didn’t work. After modifying their plan, they try again (but better this time).
13. They don’t require anyone’s permission to act.
Highly confident people take action without hesitation. Every day, they remind themselves, “If not me, who?”
14. They don’t limit themselves to a small toolbox.
Highly confident people don’t limit themselves to Plan A. They make use of any and all weapons that are at their disposal, relentlessly testing the effectiveness of every approach, until they identify the strategies that offer the most results for the least cost in time and effort.
15. They don’t blindly accept what they read on the Internet as “truth” without thinking about it.
Highly confident people don’t accept articles on the Internet as truth just because some author “said so”. They look at every how-to article from the lens of their unique perspective. They maintain a healthy skepticism, making use of any material that is relevant to their lives, and forgetting about the rest. While articles like this are a fun and interesting thought-exercise, highly confident people know that they are the only person with the power to decide what “confidence” means.
Thursday, 24 July 2014
That's pretty heavy, right? Procrastination is literally the murderer of your opportunities. Putting off until tomorrow what you could get done today has a bad rap, but it's not entirely deserved.
Forget what your grandmother and first-grade teacher and university professors told you--procrastination isn't all that terrible. In fact, your stall tactics and inability to function until right before the deadline just might have some surprising benefits.
1. Procrastination breeds efficiency.
Let's face it, if you have one week to complete a three-hour task, you're not going to do it within the first three hours of the week. You'll probably cut it pretty close to the last three hours of the week, in fact.
Stop beating yourself up over it. If you're the type of person who works more efficiently and can be more productive while under the pressure of the ticking clock, go with it. You'll still get your work in on time and will be happier than if you'd spent the week mulling over how weak you are.
2. Putting tasks off reduces unnecessary efforts.
Have you ever turned in a piece of work, only to be told it's no longer needed? If you're jumping on every task as soon as it's assigned, this is bound to happen. In every industry, in every type of job, things can change. Putting tasks off until closer to the deadline might just cut out some unnecessary efforts when these things change.
3. You can be open to more enjoyable things.
Procrastination allows you a greater degree of freedom of choice with your focus. Does it make you happy to miss out on things you really want to do? Of course not.
If procrastinating means you get to enjoy something today and can still complete whatever is required of you before it has to be done--even if it's just hours or minutes before--you've still accomplished what you set out to do. And you've had fun in the meantime.
4. Procrastination can reduce anxiety.
The degree to which putting something off can reduce anxiety is dependent on a) how anxious you are about the task itself, and b) how anxious you are about procrastination.
We often put off things we really, really don't want to do--things that make us uncomfortable or anxious or even afraid. If you can take the time to mentally prepare yourself and tackle it when you're ready, you can reduce your overall anxiety about the task.
5. Time can bring greater ideas or other improvements.
While you're procrastinating, your mind is still aware that the task does have to be done, eventually. You might find yourself thinking up ways to improve on whatever it is you have to do as you go about your daily life at home and at work.
Procrastinating gives your ideas time to percolate; it allows you to sit down and tackle the task after your subconscious has chewed it over. The result just might be a better outcome.
6. It makes you a rebel…sort of.
Only insomuch as you can rebel against modern day norms, though. In ancient Greece and Rome, procrastination was actually respected and highly regarded. It was a sign of affluence and leadership if you had time to sit around and think things over and basically do nothing until you had fully thought out a decision.
If you need that time to sit and stew and think and mull over, don't sweat it. Maybe you're just an old soul.
7. Finally accomplishing the task gives an adrenaline rush.
Whoo-wee! And now that you're done, doesn't that feel great? If you're hooked on the rush you feel when you've finally hammered something out at the very last minute, don't rob yourself of that pleasure.
If you're highly skilled in the art of procrastination, don't knock yourself. Stop listening to the people who will tell you how awful you are for putting things off--at least you're still getting them done! You might even end up turning out higher-quality, better-thought-out work as a result of your "bad" habit. That's pretty heavy, right? Procrastination is literally the murderer of your opportunities.
Saturday, 19 July 2014
The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself. ~ Mark Caine
Successful people weren’t born that way. So how do they do it?
They’re just willing do the things that lead to their dreams. And then they do it again. They imagine what their future could be, and then they work every day toward that vision, or that purpose. Regardless of their profession or life dreams, here are seven common principles highly successful people have trained themselves to do that the rest of us are capable of doing too.
1. Set up a world class belief system
You don’t have to be saddled with a set of beliefs that are more about survival than success. Many of us were programmed to avoid pain at all costs which means living with a ‘playing not to lose’ mentality. A belief system that doesn’t serve you well.
If you want something, put in the effort. No matter your age, or upbringing or your lot in life, invest time solidifying new beliefs. A world class belief system can be created from scratch, but it’s a never ending activity. Take seminars, study, create affirmations. Do what’s necessary even if it’s hard. You’ll find the rewards are phenomenal.
2. Take extra steps, walk the extra mile for extraordinary results
Give a little more than you get. Be a little kinder than necessary. Do a little more than you need and you’re walking that extra mile. Those extra steps will give you extraordinary results. Remember if you give the world your very best, the world gives its best back to you.
You don’t have to have it all worked out, just begin to do better than your best from yesterday and it’ll become a part of who you are. It’s a force of habit. You’ll become more self-confident and more self-reliant and you’ll be succeeding through purpose.
3. Seek the company of those who bring out your best
Some people don’t have your best interests at heart. Keep out of their way. It’s hard to flourish when surrounded by those who consistently point out your imperfections. The greatest gift to give yourself is to have those in your life who uplift you, who show you the inner brilliance that you can’t see for yourself.
Seek those who speak words of affirmation, encouragement, appreciation, love, acceptance, possibility, and vision and return the favour. Enjoy the company of those who encourage you to be greater than you ever thought possible.
4. Dig deep and keep trying
Forget about all the times you didn’t make it. Your journey to success requires ‘stick-to-it-ness’, grit and gumption. You have the power to escape, to break free from your current lot in life.
It can be a difficult road at times, because most people want a quick fix, a quick way to results. Don’t let impatience prevent you from continuing to try. If you try anything to improve yourself, to be kinder, to love more, you have made the world a better place. You’ve achieved something great. That’s true success.
Don’t overlook the fact that the moment you commit yourself, providence moves too. And support arrives in ways you couldn’t possible have orchestrated. Keep trying.
5. Follow the formulas for personal achievement
Self-discipline is one thing in life you have complete, unquestionable control over. It’s the key to getting things done. Success might be the destination, but discipline is the vehicle that gets you there. Without it, you get nowhere fast. With it, you go even further than you imagine, and accomplish more than you ever dreamed possible.
Take charge of your destiny. Being disciplined in the attitude you bring to life is the path to all the abundance and joy you desire; it’s part of the formula for personal achievement.
6. Practice Controlling Your Attention
Your greatest ally is the ability to direct your thoughts in the direction of your dreams, regardless of the ups and downs of the day. Don’t worry about the negative ideas that demand your attention; don’t allow yourself to be be distracted by fleeting fears, train yourself to choose thoughts that lead to greater personal achievement.
Give yourself a chance to create the best, most successful life possible by guiding your thoughts towards your goal. You are where you are today because your thoughts have taken you there and your future rests on the quality of the thoughts you have from now on.
7. Do one good thing for yourself every day
It’s important to step back; it allows every challenge to appear smaller and allows you to gain new perspective.
It’s vital to remember you are rare and precious.
Each day choose one good thing to do for your body: exercise, languish in a bath, eat a healthy meal. And each day choose one good thing for your spirit. Meditate, read uplifting texts, anything that nurtures your spirit. Have fun.
Never forget success is about many things: laughing a lot, finding the best in others, leaving the world a little better, giving to yourself. A truly successful life involves bringing love to every corner of our existence.
Sunday, 13 July 2014
The road to success is rarely straight. Anyone who has achieved success in any area of their life will likely tell you that their journey was not an easy one. Roadblocks, dead ends, disappointments, bad decisions, and failures (collectively referred to as “experience”) are often the stepping-stones that forge the path to success.
Most people who have achieved success have also hit rock bottom somewhere along the way. But it was the experience of hitting rock bottom that gave these individuals the motivation they needed to make dramatic changes in their life and propel them towards success. A setback is a setup for a comeback.
If you wake up one day and realize that the life you’re living is not the life you want, don’t beat yourself up about it. Accept where you are, and more importantly, accept the responsibility for changing where you’re going to be.
You cannot change your life overnight, but you can most certainly change the direction of your life overnight.
Here are 12 things you can start doing immediately to turn your life around and get back on track to achieving success:
1. Read daily
If you want your life to get better, you need to start making better decisions. To make better decisions, you need to equip yourself with new ideas and better information. Get into the habit of reading at least 10 pages of great information every single day. At this rate, you’ll be able to finish at least 1 new book per month, for a total of 12 new books per year.
Don’t read fiction. In most cases, fiction is meant to entertain you, but not empower you. You should alternate between non-fiction categories that have a direct correlation to the areas of your life you want to improve. Examples of good categories include: health, personal finance, wealth creation, relationships, business, self-help, spirituality, productivity, success, and inspirational biographies. The wisdom and ideas you will get from these types of book will undoubtedly help you to succeed.
2. Put your goals in writing
Without question, the most successful people in the world all have goals. Their goals are the benchmark against which they measure their results. People without goals often have no direction. Like a hamster on a wheel, they move but go nowhere.
Turning your life around begins with identifying exactly what you want to achieve and then creating a strategy for achieving it. Give your goals deadlines, and identify the resources you will need and the actions you must take in order to accomplish them. Read your goals every morning when you wake up and every night before you go to sleep to ensure your mind stays focused on your objectives.
3. Dissolve relationships with people who hold you back
There may be some people in your life that you are better off not spending time with. Not everyone has habits or attitudes that are conducive to success, and unfortunately those habits and attitudes are contagious. Like crabs in a bucket, these people are the first to pull you down the moment they see you trying to climb to a higher level. You may have friends, coworkers, or even family members who fit this description.
It is not always a good idea to abruptly cut people out of your life (doing so typically arouses resentment). Some relationships should be dissolved gently. Gradually decrease the amount of time you spend with the people who you don’t want around you as you move forward. Use the time you would otherwise be spending with them to build new relationships with positive people who support and encourage your success.
4. Stay hydrated and exercise regularly
Success doesn’t come easy. It takes a lot of hard work. In order to put in the work necessary to get to the next level without burning out, you need to build up large reserves of physical and mental energy.
The first thing you can do to immediately increase your energy levels is to drink more water. Water helps replenish your system, improve digestion and eliminate waste from your body. Many people make the mistake of thinking they are tired or hungry when in reality they are just dehydrated. Drink a large glass of water as soon as you wake up, drink a few glasses throughout the day and before each meal, and drink another glass in the evening before you go to sleep.
The second thing you should do is exercise for at least 30 minutes (go for a run or go to the gym) no less than 3 times per week. Regular exercise helps strengthen your heart and lungs, improves your flexibility and strength, helps manage your weight, prevents illness, decreases stress, and it even helps you to get better sleep – all of which have positive effects on your energy levels, overall health, focus and productivity.
5. Start a savings plan
There’s an old Chinese Proverb that says: “The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago. The second best time is today.” When it comes to saving money, this philosophy is just as valid. If you haven’t been saving a portion of your income for investment and future use, the best time to start doing so is now. Most financial planners would agree that you should be saving a minimum of 10% of your monthly income on a consistent basis. Unfortunately most people spend the majority of what they earn (sometimes more) and invest very little for the future.
Don’t make the mistake of working hard for money, and then using that money to pay everyone else except you. Pay yourself first. If you don’t think you have the discipline to do this, go to your bank and arrange for a percentage of the income you deposit to be immediately transferred to a savings or investment account. Learn to live off of at least 90% of your income. Your future self will thank you for it.
6. Turn your car into a classroom
If you work full-time, you probably spend somewhere between 5 and 10 hours per week commuting to and from work. Instead of listening to music or the radio during this time, start listening to inspiring and educational content. Most books have an audio version, and there are plenty of great podcasts that you can listen to for free on iTunes. With an abundance of great content on virtually every subject at your disposal, you don’t have to go back to school to get more education.
7. Stop watching TV
If you pay for a monthly cable subscription then do yourself a favor and cancel it. Seriously. Watching television is arguably one of the most toxic, unproductive, time-wasting activities of modern society. Stop wasting precious hours of your day on negative news, sports, advertisements, and reality shows that add no real value to your life. Start using the hours you waste channel surfing on activities that are more productive.
If for whatever reason you just can’t live without watching a specific game or episode, then add it to your schedule, watch it online (on Apple TV or Netflix, for example), and make it a social event by inviting friends or family to join you.
8. Practice public speaking
The ability to speak confidently and communicate articulately is one of the most valued and rewarded skills in the marketplace today. People who are good communicators are able to navigate their way through life with ease and enjoy more success than those who are not. They earn promotions, they build key relationships, they present their ideas clearly, they resolve disputes, and they typically earn the respect and admiration of the people around them. They are leaders in their organizations, their families, and their communities.
Most people are terrified of speaking in public, and they will do almost anything to avoid it. This presents a tremendous opportunity for those who are willing to step out of their comfort zone and develop this rare skill. One of the places you can go to practice your communication skills in a non-threatening, positive environment is your local Toastmasters club. Most of these clubs host weekly meetings where anyone is welcome to attend and participate. As you become a stronger communicator, people will begin to perceive you as a leader, and more opportunities will come to you as a result.
9. Stop complaining
One of the worst habits a person can have is the habit of complaining. People who complain are usually negative and pessimistic by nature. Don’t be one of them. If you encounter problems or challenges, don’t complain about them. If you catch yourself complaining about something, bite your tongue and reframe the situation. Complaining about a situation doesn’t change it. Get proactive and focus on finding a solution. A Napoleon Hill once said: “Every adversity carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit.” Look for the benefit in each situation.
10. Learn a new skill
A great way to bring some more excitement into your life is to learn something new. Consider learning to play an instrument, learning to speak a new language, joining a club, taking a class, or playing a sport you’ve never played before. The purpose of doing this is to ignite your sense of wonder and creativity, while simultaneously getting you out of your comfort zone and into new experiences.
11. Start a business
If you don’t already own your own business, there is no better time to start one than right now. Advances in technology have removed virtually all barriers to entry for aspiring entrepreneurs. Anyone with an internet connection and a credit card can start a business, and there is no shortage of training and resources available to help you get started.
For about as much as it costs to stay in a hotel for a weekend, you can buy a web domain, create a website, print some business cards, place a few ads online, and start promoting yourself to the marketplace. You could sell a service (graphic design or consulting, for example), sell your own products, or promote someone else’s products in exchange for a commission.
12. Look for opportunities to help others
Most people think only in terms of what they can receive from others instead of what they can give to others. But the law of reciprocity teaches us that if we want to receive, we should give. Giving ignites the receiving process.
If you want to feel good, one of the simplest yet most effective ways to feel good is to do something to make someone else feel good. If you want people to treat you with more respect, start treating other people with more respect. If you want your life to get better, help someone else’s life get better. The more you do for others, the more others will want to do things for you.
Thursday, 10 July 2014
Let’s face it: even though bragging about how lazy you are on the Internet is for some reason constantly applauded, you can’t be lazy your whole life. At some point, you have to turn off Netflix and get something done. In an effort to help those who want to get up and do something great with their life, here are six things to try when you find yourself feeling lazy.
1. Focus on just one or two things.
Most of the time laziness is the product of a full plate and no idea where to start. When you try to tackle everything at once, it’s hard not to feel like this:But when you focus on one or two things at a time, it’s easier to get motivated and not feel so overwhelmed. Once you’ve found the strength to get up and finish one thing, deep down the thought, “hey, maybe I can do this” starts to creep in. Next thing you know, your whole list is done and you’re fist pumping in celebration with all your friends!
Maybe you really don’t know where to start on your massive to-do list. If that’s the case, go exercise. You’ll feel a lot better about yourself and have more energy. Plus, while you exercise, your brain activates, which helps you find answers to your problems you hadn’t thought of before. In Born To Run, a book about some of the craziest running athletes ever, the author says, “If you don’t have answers to your problems after a four-hour run, you ain’t getting them.” It's not like you should go on a four-hour run, but you get the point. Once your mind has convinced itself it knows what to do, your body can easily follow suit. It’s hard to be lazy when everything inside of you is running on all cylinders.
3. Allow yourself time to relax and rest.
While exercise is good, the gospel of R&R is as true as ever. There is a big difference between being lazy and resting. Laziness has no purpose. Resting is necessary for life and clears your mind so you can tackle your endeavors head on. Maybe you’ve been working on a project for too long and you’re burned out. Try sleeping on it. Let yourself have some time to rest. Our bodies and minds need rest to function at optimal levels.
4. Get organized.
If your thoughts are a mess, hash them out in a notebook or on a whiteboard. When everything is in front of you, it’s easier to organize your thoughts. If you don’t have your thoughts organized, it’s hard to feel motivated to do anything. In addition to organizing your thoughts, maybe you need to get physically organized as well. Cleaning your room or work area is a great way to create an atmosphere of productivity. Most people work better in an organized, clean work space. Even if you don’t think that’s your problem, it’s worth a try. What if taking the time to get organized is exactly what you need to find the motivation to get going and flaming
roundhouse kick your to-do list in the face?
5. Be aware of your self talk.
Often, being lazy is a result of negative self-talk. You convince yourself there’s nothing you can do or that there is too much on your plate. You won’t get anywhere with that attitude. Quit putting yourself down and start believing in yourself. Even if you don’t feel like it, tell yourself you can do it. Say it out loud. If you have to go to a private place so you don’t feel dumb, do it. Positive self-talk leads to positive thinking which leads to productive action. You’ll never get anything done if you keep telling yourself you can’t do anything.
6. Search YouTube.
This may seem counterproductive, but YouTube can be used for more than cats and music videos. There are a thousand different videos on YouTube that will make you feel like you could pick up a mountain and throw it to Mars.