Quotes To Cheer Your Day

Wednesday, 17 December 2014

What To Remember When The Going Gets Tough

We’ve all gone through hard times. And we all get through them. However, some get through them better than others. So what is their secret? Most of it has to do with attitude. 

Here are 13 things to remember when life gets rough:

1. What is, is. Buddha’s famous saying tells us: “It is your resistance to ‘what is’ that causes your suffering.” Think about that for a minute. It means that our suffering only occurs when we resist how things are. If you can change something, then take action! Change it! But if you can’t change it, then you have two choices: (1) either accept it and let go of the negativity, or (2) make yourself miserable by obsessing over it.

2. It’s only a problem if you think it’s a problem. Many times, we are our own worst enemy. Happiness is really dependent on perspective. If you think something is a problem, then your thoughts and emotions will be negative. But if you think it’s something you can learn from, then suddenly, it’s not a problem anymore. 

3. If you want things to change, you need to start with changing yourself. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world. Don’t you know people whose lives are chaotic and stressful? And isn’t that largely because they feel chaotic inside? Yes, it is. We like to think that changing our circumstances will change us. But we have it backwards—we need to change ourselves first before our circumstances will change.

4. There is no such thing as failure—only learning opportunities. You should just wipe the word “failure” right out of your vocabulary. All great people who have ever achieved anything have “failed” over and over. In fact, Thomas Edison who said something like, “I did not fail at inventing the light bulb, I just first found 99 ways that it didn’t work.” Take your so-called “failures” and learn something from them. Learn how to do it better next time.

5. If you don’t get something you want, it just means something better is coming. That’s hard to believe sometimes. But it’s true. Usually, when you look back at your life, you will be able to see why it was actually a good thing that something didn’t work out. Maybe the job you didn’t get would have made you spend more time away from your family, but the job you did get was more flexible. Just have faith that everything happens exactly the way it’s supposed to.

6. Appreciate the present moment. This moment will never come again. And there is always something precious about every moment. So don’t let it pass you by! Soon it will just be a memory. Even moments that don’t seem happy can be looked upon as something that you might miss someday. 

7. Let go of desire. Most people live with “attached mind.” What this means is that they attach themselves to a desire, and when they don’t get it, their emotions plummet into negativity. Instead, try to practice “detached mind.” That means that when you want something, you will still be happy whether you get it or not. Your emotions remain happy or neutral.

8. Understand and be grateful for your fears. Fear can be a great teacher. And overcoming fears can also make you feel victorious. Overcoming fears just takes practice. Fear is really just an illusion. It’s optional.

9. Allow yourself to experience joy. Believe it or not, too many people don’t allow themselves to have fun. And they don’t even know how to be happy. Some people are actually addicted to their problems and the chaos in them so much that they wouldn’t even know who they are without them. So try to allow yourself to be happy! Even if it’s just for a small moment, it’s important to focus on joy, not your hardships.

10. Don’t compare yourself to other people. But if you do compare yourself, compare yourself with people who have it worse than you. Unemployed? Be grateful that you live in a country that gives unemployment compensation, because most people may not have that. So you don’t look like Angelina Jolie? Well, there are more people who don’t than do. And you are probably way better looking than most people. Focus on that.

11. You are not a victim. You need to get out of your own way. You are only a “victim” of your own thoughts, words and actions. No one “does” something to you. You are the creator of your own experience. Take personal responsibility and realize that you can get out of your hard times. You just need to start with changing your thoughts and actions. Abandon your victim mentality and become victorious. From victim to VICTOR!

12. Things can—and do—change. “And this too shall pass” should be your favorite sayings. When we are stuck in a bad situation, we think that there is no way out. We think nothing will ever change. But guess what? It will! Nothing is permanent except death. So get out of the habit of thinking that things will always be this way. They won’t. But you do need to take some sort of action for things to change. It won’t magically happen all on its own.

13. Anything is possible. Miracles happen every day. Really—they do. It happens all the time. You just need to believe it does. Once you do, you have won the battle.

Sunday, 7 December 2014

What Will Happen When You Stop Checking Your Facebook

Social media can be a great tool for keeping in touch with people, making new friends, and socializing effectively. Unfortunately not everyone uses it that way. For many, checking Facebook has become almost like a job. They post for likes, see what others are doing, and become almost obsessed with knowing exactly what’s going on everywhere all at once. They play all the games and participate in all of the fads (like quizzes). This may be you or someone you know. If it is then maybe it’s time to quit. 

Here are 10 things that will happen once you stop checking Facebook all the time.

1. You’ll become less brain dead.

When you’re buried in a screen checking Facebook, you’re not paying attention to the world around you. Your animals may need to be fed or to be let out to use the restroom. You’ll do it but only after you’re done on Facebook. You may go places but still be on your phone all the time. If that happens, you’re not even experiencing what you left your house to experience. When you put Facebook down, you put your head up and start looking at what’s going on around you and you’ll be more cognizant of everything. For your hungry pets or your friends who wanted to hang out with you, that’s a good thing.

2. You’ll get more work done.

​It’s easy to lose focus on your job when you are easily connected to the Internet and go check Facebook or Google+ for a few minutes. A few minutes turns into a quarter of an hour and before you know it, you have lost 30 minutes of productivity. Thanks to smartphones and improving mobile data speeds, you can check Facebook anywhere and that includes at work. When you put it down, you’ll have to do something else to keep from being bored and that usually means doing actual work. If you do put it down then expect your productivity to go up.

3. You can focus on other things.

Being on Facebook takes up a lot of time. You can waste insane amounts of time just scrolling through updates. This is especially true since Facebook doesn’t adhere to a chronological posting format anymore. Putting down Facebook means you’ll be freeing up a lot of time. That’s time that can be spent doing other things. You can spend more time with your significant other and make your relationship stronger. You can spend more time with friends and reconnect with them on a different level. You can get on a treadmill and lose a few pounds, get back into shape, and feel better about yourself. The possibilities are literally endless because you’ll be spending time doing what you want to do.

4. You can find out who your real friends are.

Having a good internet friendship is easy. Liking people’s posts and commenting on their photos takes mere moments. Someone who comments on all of your photos and likes all of your status updates spent 45 seconds doing it but they appear as though they really care and that they’re a real friend who is interested in you. Once you leave Facebook, a lot of that will disappear. The only people who want to actually hang out with you are people who care about you and who want you around. Leaving Facebook is going to help you find those people really quickly.

5. You will learn the word “like” has no meaning.

Liking things on Facebook is no longer a matter of actually liking the post. It’s an obligatory action to show that I have seen the post and acknowledge its existence. Many people are too close to the problem to see it directly. Taking a step away can show you just how useless the Like button is now and how few people actually care about the things they like.

6. You will feel more accomplished.

​The defining characteristic of Facebook is that you’re never done with it. There is always more to do, more to see, and more to engage with. Dealing with that feeling of “never done” all day long can be emotionally and mentally draining. Doing things outside of Facebook can fix that problem. You can finish a book. You can finish planting a garden. You can finish washing the dishes. Pretty much any task in the real world is something that you can finish. We as humans feel almost high on the sense of accomplishment. Don’t rob yourself of that feeling. Get off of Facebook and finish something.

7. You will get rid of the stalkers.

Practically everyone who uses Facebook has a stalker. That is especially true if you happen to be a woman. People can look at your photos, your updates, and everything without your permission and some people actually do that. Creepy guys will frequently browse the photos of their crushes. Creepy women will do the same thing (albeit less frequently). People you’re not friends and people you don’t want to be friends with can see your information. Even if they can’t see you directly, they can see who you associate with. Your less privacy-minded friend may post that they’re going to the mall with you. Now your stalkers know where you are. If you leave Facebook, you’ll be totally immune to those kind of creepy people.

8. You will actually feel better about yourself.

​A study was conducted and has pretty much proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that Facebook makes you feel bad about yourself. There are so many reasons for this. When you post a status and no one likes it, you feel like everyone thinks you’re stupid. When you post photos and members of the opposite sex don’t comment on how good you look, you feel ugly. You’re constantly exposed to people who are happier than you, more successful than you, and who have stronger relationships than you. How is that not supposed to make you feel inferior or utterly depressed all the time? Why would you want to put yourself through that? There’s an easy way to stop and that’s taking a break from Facebook.

9. You will feel better about the things you own.

Reuters published a piece regarding some research that had been conducted in Germany about how people feel on Facebook. The end result was that people actually become more jealous and envious of what others have on Facebook. It may be someone posting about their new phone, car, house, or other possession. There are some who get jealous when they see people in happy relationships be it friends, boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, or family relationships. Facebook is a great place to brag about what you have and that means it’s also a great place to read about all the things that people have that you don’t. Why would you want to put yourself through that?

10. You will realize that all you ever were to Facebook was a piece of data that viewed advertisements.

We have no doubt that there are people on Facebook who legitimately care about you. However, we also have no doubt that Facebook itself couldn’t care less about you. To Mark Zuckerberg you are a piece of data in his giant database to be mined and exploited. Your job on Facebook is to view advertisements, spend money on Facebook games, and make the site rich. What happens to you aside from that doesn’t really matter to Facebook. You wouldn’t stay in a relationship with a person who treated you that way, so why stay in a relationship with Facebook?

This may sounds like a Facebook bash post and it definitely is to an extent. However, social media sites were made for a reason and somewhere in the last 10 years, we’ve all forgotten what that reason is. That includes you, me, and even the social networks themselves. It’s not about finding people, or about connecting, and creating lifelong friends anymore. It’s about fads. It’s about chain-liking status updates like a smoker chain-smokes. 

It’s an addiction and it’s a job and you don’t really get anything out of it. We’re not saying you should leave Facebook for good. That’s a little drastic. However, you should definitely have less of it in your life. You’re not missing much by not going on Facebook 30 times a day. 

Tuesday, 2 December 2014

Things To Say Before It's Too Late

1.) I love you

The most important thing that those people you love the most and loves you back is you to say these 3 words which is “ I love you.” When you are in a relationship, it is easy to say these words. But most people, especially during their teenage life and early adulthoods are afraid to say these 3 words to their parents or relatives which means to them the most. And most regrets that when their parents passed away, they haven’t even told their parents the words “I love you.”

2.) Is there something that bothers you?

Try to ask people those who mean a lot to you these words because it is one of the ways in order to check whether they are okay or not, and it really means a lot to them especially when they have problems or situations which are painful to carry. A good relationship with others can be attained and strengthened if you are with them through good and bad times.

3.) I need you

These are words which shows that you need that or those people in your life. It is never wrong to ask people that you need them, and in fact, it makes them feel wanted and shows that someone needs them in their lives. These are just simple words but have a powerful effect which can strengthen your relationship with others.

4.) My life has been great

Always think of these words and say it to other people. Although you might think that your life sucks because of all the ups and downs you have faced, but it is never wrong to say it because through those challenges in your life that you had become stronger and what made who you are today. Although it may seem deviated from the way you want them to be, but it is you that who made that path. Don’t pity yourself by saying that it had not been a great life because you will just depress yourself and it will not bring any good in you.

5.) I can do this

Always fill your mind with these words! Always think that you can do those tasks imposed upon you. It is a challenge in your life which when you had done it, it would really be fulfilling. There is nothing wrong with being positive, and in fact, it brings you hope and leads you to a greater path, than being pessimistic which only brings you sadness and despair, running away from your fears and being engulfed with negativism. Always challenge yourself and face your fears while saying “I can do this” for it will really give you the courage and the spirit to conquer those walls blocking you.

6.) Can I help?

Be like the good Samaritan. It is not wrong to ask people if they need help, in fact it is a good trait which shows how caring a person you are, especially when you need not ask these words but directly help through actions. These words are comforting to those people you ask and it shows the goodness in you.

7.) I trust you

Trust is the keeper of a good and strong relationship. That is why when trust is broken, it is really hard to earn it from that person again especially if they trust you with their life. When someone had said you these words, treasure and never break it, because it is really a sign of so much respect that person owes you.

8.) I believe in you

There is nothing more encouraging and esteem boosting these words can be, especially when you had heard these words to those persons you love, or value the most. When life gets tough and you don’t have the self-esteem to face it, but when a person tells you that he believes in you, it can really encourage and boost your esteem which will give you the power to really exert an effort and much diligence to overcome it.

9.) I forgive you

Forgiveness is one of the most difficult thing to give to people especially when they had done a great deal or damage upon you. But when those persons had atone to what they have done and that they are so regretful, telling them you forgive them would really mean so much to them, and it’s like the doors to heaven had opened up upon them. Try saying these words on the people who had done a great deal on you especially if they are really regretful because it would be a blessing to them when they hear the words “I forgive you.”

10.) I love myself

Before loving other people, you must first love yourself. When you love yourself, you’ll learn to love and open up with other people. Saying you love yourself is a way of self-preservation and respect to one’s self. It pose a responsibility upon you to take good care of yourself and look for happiness in one’s life

Friday, 28 November 2014

How To Pick Yourself Up When Feeling Down

No matter how positive you try to be, inevitable problems may arise.  Your plans will not always go your way.  Or for some women, hormones will get in the way of a rather promising day or week. You will feel lousy no matter how optimistic a person you are.  

Here are ways to counter that abysmal feeling and feel great any day.

Think happy thoughts

Peter Pan can fly with happy thoughts (plus fairy dust of course).  Your mood will improve and you will feel lighter when you think of happy memories.  It’s all in the mind.  So, the shift from feeling gloomy to feeling happy starts with making the mind shift.

Power dress  

Before you go out of the house, decide to look your best regardless of how you’re feeling inside.  It is not being pretentious.  It is helping yourself remember how great you are by looking your best.  When you look good on the outside, you trick your mind in a way in believing that you are okay. 

When you like what you see, you feel a little better.  Power dressing is important to have in the “I will conquer this day” attitude.  Power dressing gives you an extra boost of confidence.

Eat healthy food  

When you are feeling down, it’s easy to turn into the usual comfort food—junk food!  Don’t do it.  It will only make you more dismal.  Fruits will actually make you feel better.  If you want to opt for a chocolate, choose the dark variety.  

Surround yourself with people who exude positivity  

You unconsciously absorb the energy of those around you.  Chances are, if you are feeling down you have been hanging out with skeptics, complainers, and faultfinders.   Step away for a while and go talk with people who focus on the good.  Talk with those who will encourage and motivate you.  Talk with those who can make you laugh and forget worrying.

Choose your music  

The music we listen to influences our mood.  So much like talking with someone, music sends out either good or bad vibes.

Stop worrying  

Remember that this too shall pass.  Remember that time when you had a bad day or a tough week, but you are still where you are right now.  You are still standing.  You are now stronger and better.  If God delivered you from that experience, what makes you think that this time is going to be different?  Your trial is temporary.  The glory that awaits you is forever.  Look at the victorious ending of your story.  Keep your eyes on the prize.

Sleep on it

Sleeping gives your brain a reboot.  Subconsciously, your mind will be working out a solution to whatever problem that is bothering you right now.  Whatever negative thought it is that makes you lousy, let your subconscious figure out a way to resolve it.  The cells in your body also regenerate in your sleep.  So if you’re feeling lousy, have a good sleep so you’ll look and feel refreshed upon waking up.

Tuesday, 18 November 2014

The Five Pillars Of Success

Success is not an event. It is a journey. Along this journey, every successful person acquires five things. It's called the 5 Pillars of Success. Here they are, in order of importance:

#1 Your Why

Why have you decided to pursue a goal, main purpose or life dream? Your Why is so important that without it no success is possible. Your Why is what gives you the passion to take action. Your Why gives you focus, persistence and patience. Your Why makes it impossible for you to quit. All successful people have a huge Why before they embark on their journey towards success. It is the first passenger they pick up along their journey.

#2  Expertise

As you pursue your goal, main purpose of life dream you pick up another passenger on your journey towards success – Expertise. When your Why is strong enough you will be able to obtain all of the knowledge, skill and expertise that is necessary to achieve your goal, purpose or dream. You will learn so many new things along the journey. At the end of your journey you will have become an expert. The greatest thing about expertise is that it cannot be taken away from you. It becomes the fabric of the new you. It makes you bigger. It enables you to become the person you need to be in order to be successful.  And that new you, with all of your new skills and knowledge and experience, will be the new you forever.

#3 Action

Success requires action. You simply cannot think your way to success. Taking action means taking risks. Most people are not successful because they never take action. Fear holds most people back. Successful people overcome their fears and take action, knowing that there is a strong probability they will make costly mistakes and fail along the way. Their Why keeps them taking action.

#4 Beliefs

Successful people have overcome their limiting beliefs. They have replaced their limiting beliefs with positive, optimistic and fearless beliefs. They take control of their mind.

#5 Success Habits

Success requires good daily habits, also known as Success Habits or Rich Habits. These are daily habits that enable you to move forward every day towards the achievement of your goal, purpose or dream. They require consistent daily application. Once formed they will guide you unconsciously towards the realization of your goal, purpose or dream.